Monday, August 23, 2010
I don't want to write about my cooking, though. You all know I have another blog for that :). I want to tell you about something we talked abut in therapy last week. Some of you know that Junior had a bad weekend a few weeks ago. He is stressed, and I have been thinking for a while now that he might be depressed again. So, we started up his meds again, and he seems to be doing better. (I know some of you don't believe in meds, but for us, there is no other choice...I can't and won't go into specifics here) We ended up going to our family doctor, who I love. He was our doctor back when we had insurance, and he has been the kids doctor forever. In fact, he was the one who told me I was pregnant with Brandi. Anyway, we went and spoke with him for a good while, and Junior seems to be back on track.
When we were in therapy last week, we were talking about how Junior was doing, and one of our therapists, Myra, asked why I decided to stand by Junior and be so supportive. That question kind of shocked me, and I told her so. She asked why, and I told her that it never even entered my mind not to be supportive. I mean, he is my husband. It's what I'm supposed to do. I did point out that by the end of the weekend, I was ready to bitch slap him and tell him to suck it up, but that was when he was kind of feeling better.
So my question to you is this...if you are married, would you walk away from your spouse if they were going through a difficult period? If so, how much is enough?
Elizabeth, our main therapist, actually said that Junior and I have a "real" marriage, and we should be role models for other married couples. She said we don't have the preconceived notion that life is going to be a big romance story. We have love. Real love. Comfortable love. Simple as that. We have been through so much together. Stuff that would have probably resulted in divorce in many other couples. (I am not talking about cheating or anything like that...just family drama and money issues and depression and all the normal everyday crap)
I am in no way bragging here, and I was pretty embarrassed when she was saying all of this, but when I thought about it later, I think she kind of had a point. My marriage is in no way perfect, but we don't expect it to be. But, when one of us is down, after the other makes fun for a moment, there is a lot of lifting up going on. I know, without a doubt, that Junior would do anything for me. I know this. He has proven it time and time again.
It was my time to be there for him, and I am happy to say that I was.